The Art of Asking

“The perception that vulnerability is weakness is the most widely accepted myth about vulnerability and the most dangerous. When we spend our lives pushing away and protecting ourselves from feeling vulnerable or from being perceived as too emotional, we feel contempt when others are less capable or willing to mask feelings, suck it up, and soldier on. We’ve come to the point where, rather than respecting and appreciating the courage and daring behind vulnerability, we let our fear and discomfort become judgment and criticism.”
― Amanda Palmer, The Art of Asking: How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Let People Help

I am reading a wonderful book right now The Art of Asking. How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Let People Help by Amanda Palmer.

Indie-rock star, crowdfunding pioneer and TED speaker (scroll down to the video), Palmer writes about the transformative power of asking.

Historically, I’m crap at asking, and at the grand old age of 46, I’m just in the process of learning how to receive – help, meals cooked for me, love.

Palmer is inspiring because she’s the real deal – she’s authentic, vulnerable, messy, fearless.

I love her message and I love this book.

Here’s her TED talk:
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  1. Margaret Reece
    Margaret Reece04-17-2015

    This is a lesson I had to learn. For most of my life I bottled things up so that I became very anxious. I had to learn to get out of my head and connect with people. It took time but I’ve learned that it’s strong to be vulnerable, not weak. And the people who don’t respond to what they call weak and vulnerable are the very people who are hurting inside and need help.. They haven’t yet learned to take off the mask and be themselves.